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More Than a File (on being a whole life, and not a stack of paper.

By Tobia · July 7, 2026 · 4 min read

Tobia Bradley, CDC · Certified Divorce Coach ASHBY JONES & ASSOCIATES, LLC Lexington | Columbia | Charleston There is a fear in this season that almost no one says out loud. It does not show up in the big moments. It shows up in the quiet ones. You are driving home from an appointment, or […]

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September 10, 2026

You Do Not Have to Know Yet

On the questions that keep you awake, and the quiet courage of taking one day at a time Tobia Bradley, CDC · Certified Divorce Coach · Ashby Jones & Associates, LLC If your mind will not stop asking questions right now, I want you to know you are in very good company. Nearly every woman […]

September 9, 2026

Co-Parenting & Children

The Day You Get Back (Co-Parenting: Part Three of Three)

On letting go of control, and the freedom waiting on the other side Tobia Bradley, CDC · Certified Divorce Coach · Ashby Jones & Associates, LLC The first two parts of this were about your children. This one is about you. I have been telling you what they absorb and what they are not old […]

August 31, 2026

Co-Parenting & Children

What the House Felt Like (Co-parenting – Part Two)

On what children absorb, and the things they are not old enough to carry Tobia Bradley, CDC · Certified Divorce Coach · Ashby Jones & Associates, LLC In the first part of this, I said the only question that matters now is what kind of adults your children become. This is the part where I […]

August 28, 2026

Co-Parenting & Children

The Same Very Long Project

(Co-parenting: Part One of Three) On co-parenting, and the question that actually matters now Tobia Bradley, CDC · Certified Divorce Coach · Ashby Jones & Associates, LLC I want to start with something difficult, and then tell you why I think you can hear it. Somewhere in all of this, there is a question you […]

August 21, 2026

The Twelve Hours That Change Tomorrow

One evening, one morning, and what happens in between Tobia Bradley, CDC · Certified Divorce Coach · Ashby Jones & Associates, LLC Most of what wrecks your day was decided the night before. Not by a judge and not by your ex. By what you did between ten at night and eight the next morning, […]

August 20, 2026

Go Sit by the Water

On sand, sunlight, and the peace you have been looking for Tobia Bradley, CDC · Certified Divorce Coach · Ashby Jones & Associates, LLC I want to give you something to look forward to. I say that on purpose. When you’re in the middle of something this hard, the days start running together into one […]

August 14, 2026

Personal Growth

A Letter to the Woman Who Was Holding it All Together

On emotional abuse, and the long middle after you leave Tobia Bradley, CDC · Certified Divorce Coach · Ashby Jones & Associates, LLC I have been thinking about you all week, so I am just going to write it down and send it. Do you remember what you told me about the photographs? You said […]

August 12, 2026

Personal Growth

You Are Still in There

Tobia Bradley, CDC Certified Divorce Coach and Client Relations Manager, Ashby Jones and Associates, LLC The human side of divorce and custody There is a chair in my office that has held a lot of people. For more than two decades I have sat across from women and men in the middle of a divorce […]

Take a Walk

The oldest practice there is, and why it works on the days nothing else does Tobia Bradley, CDC · Certified Divorce Coach · Ashby Jones & Associates, LLC You already know this one. That’s exactly why I want to talk about it. Go for a walk is the advice everybody offers and almost nobody takes. […]

Wait for the Light. It always comes.

On the long middle of a divorce — and the two words that carry you through it. By Tobia Bradley, CDC | Divorce Coach | Ashby Jones and Associates, LLC The Not Today Method Series Nobody warns you about the middle. They warn you about the beginning. The day you decide, or the day it […]